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Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?

I’d say I’m fairly open, on the scale of this sort of thing. I don’t openly wear kinky items of clothing like collars in public ‘mundane’ environments, but if asked about it by a friend, I would most likely be able to discuss it.

Fortunately, I’ve not come across the situation of being exposed in a work environment, though I have encountered some ex-workmates on Fetlife and at ClubFreak nights. I’ve also come across an ex-school friend on Fetlife, and we acknowledged each other without much awkwardness. With my close friends, I’ve always been open about the fact that I am kinky and have an interest in BDSM, though I haven’t delved in great detail into it except when relevant.

Because toys were such a large part of our relationship with my ex-partner, it has factored into my discussions about it’s failings, although exclusively with close friends. I have never discussed that factor with family.

I am becoming increasingly open about the furry side of my life, as it is becoming a larger part of it due to my involvement with the local convention. I need to be careful not to cross over into the sexual side of the fandom with my ‘regular’ contacts, such as Facebook friends in animal rescue. While I myself would never consider harming an animal in any way, there is stigma surrounding the fandom, and I would hate for a curious friend to discover the hateful internet diatribes that exist and get the wrong idea.

I am also incredibly careful with whom I share this blog, and I use a pseudonym that is exclusively for kinky websites. If someone came across my writings, I would hope they would allow me to converse about it with them rather than flying off the handle. Certainly my mum has been non-judgmental when we have talked about sexuality and that sort of thing in the past, and I have a fairly open-minded family, but I could not guarantee that I would retain all of my contacts.